Change Your Perception…Change Your Stress

Stress is result of your estimate - Marcus Aurelius

Your experience of the world reflects your perspective of it.  Far too often, we become stressed out by what’s going on in our environment.

But have you noticed that some other people might not be feeling the same stress?

It all has to do with your perception.  Your estimate of what is happening and what it does or may mean to you gives your environment power over YOU.  By simply changing your estimation of what is going on, you can unleash your creativity and strength to deal with the situation…more proactively and with less debilitating stress.

So flip your perspective:  the world that you think is upside down, might actually be right side up!

© 2019 G. A. Puleo

Dr. Geri Puleo, SPHR, is the President and CEO of Change Management Solutions, Inc., an eLearning and Coaching company focused on eradicating workplace burnout through the B-DOC Model.  An entrepreneur for over 25 years, keynote speaker, author, blogger, business coach, university professor, and researcher, you can see her “in action” by watching her TEDx Talk on YouTube.  To contact Dr. Puleo, please go to

So, What Do You REALLY Want to Do?

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Have you ever asked a child what he or she wants to be when they grow up?  Usually they have a long, extensive list of all the professional possibilities just waiting for them when they grow up.

But ask an adult what he or she really wants to do professionally?  Well, that’s usually a completely different situation.

Have We Settled for “Boring” in Our Jobs? 

In the 25+ years that I’ve worked with clients to help them direct their careers, one of the most challenging issues has been getting them to tell me what they really want to do:

  • Some tell me what they’re currently doing – but don’t say it with any type of emotional connection or enthusiasm for the work.
  • Some tell me about the desired outcomes of doing “something else” – but never talk about what they’re willing to give in return for those outcomes.
  • And some look at me blankly, but honestly say that they just don’t know.

It seems like we’ve forgotten how to dream about a desirable future because of our self-limiting beliefs on what is “possible.”

Yes, I said SELF-LIMITING beliefs.  We confuse what is “possible” (which is anything) with what is “probable” (which restricts imagination based on what we believe).

While it is true that our dreams of being a musical prodigy or sports superstar may be improbable, our underlying  passion for music or sports remains very real – but often hidden by layers of “real-life” pragmatism.

But being “pragmatic” is often an excuse for denying our dreams.  For denying our passions.  For denying our potential.  And even denying our personal blend of knowledge, skills, abilities, and talents that makes us unique.

Instead of basking in our uniqueness at work, we instead wallow in jobs that neither inspire us nor appeal to our higher level passion and goals.  In other words, we settle for jobs that are boring.

And we spend too much time at work to be bored!

Assuming that we average around 40 hours per week in paid employment and have 2 weeks of unpaid vacation time per year, we’ve committed ourselves to working 2,000 hours per year.  Let’s also assume that we ideally sleep 8 hours per night; this means that we are awake 5,840 hours each year.

These basic calculations lead to the following conclusions:

On average, we will spend @35% of our waking hours at work —  over a 40-year career, that’s 80,000 hours spent on work that doesn’t excite us! 

These are conservative calculations.  In reality, many of us spend many more hours working at our jobs.  This doesn’t include overtime (paid or unpaid, of exempt salaried under FLSA).  Nor does it include all those paid vacations that we “never got around to taking.”  Nor does it consider that many Baby Boomers’ careers are longer than 40 years (because they want to or need to).

Do you really want to spend this much of your live…being BORED?!

The Dangers of Boredom at Work

Boredom occurs when an activity feels unsatisfying or when some mandatory task does not ignite your interest.  It’s not necessarily the result of a bored mindset.  Even highly energized workers can become bored when they are not given opportunities to focus that energy on something that is meaningful to them.

Some recent research suggests that boredom can lead to physical ailments:

  • Weight gain (eating because we’re bored – and generally food that is not necessarily healthy for us)
  • Poor emotional health and depression
  • Persistent back pain or a higher level of pain in general (in other words, unhappy emotions increase feelings of physical pain)

Other research has found that a lack of neurological excitement coupled with a subjective psychological state of dissatisfaction is the basis for feelings of boredom.  In other words, we are uninspired and dissatisfied with our work.

Boredom makes us feel “stuck” – we’re weary and restless with no direction.  It also prevents us from engaging in our innate curiosity by placing boundaries on what we believe is possible.  It tells us that “nothing will change…so why bother trying something new?”

Boredom makes us believe that “success” is impossible.

By affecting the individual worker,
boredom can also jeopardize the company’s very survival! 

Moving Out of a Boring Job

It is not helpful to believe that every task in a job should be full of excitement.  A certain level of mundane tasks can be found in any job.  But we don’t have to let the tedium take over our work experience.

If your job has become boring and tedious, you have arrived at an important crossroad:  are you going to accept that you have no choice to change a job that is boring OR do are you going to muster the courage to take action toward finding something new, different, and better aligned with your life goals?

My hope is that you take the time to assess your career to date in order to determine if it’s time to make changes in your life.

The first step to moving out of a boring job is to identify what you want.  Don’t limit yourself to probabilities at this stage!  Instead think back to what gives you enjoyment.  Identify those activities in which you are so thoroughly engaged that “time seems to fly by.”

Once you’ve identified these activities, it’s time to search for common themes.  Even though you might enjoy what initially seem to be very diverse activities, there is always some underlying action or outcome.  By identifying this thread, you have the foundation for creating a career that contains this important element.

For example, I was originally a conservatory voice major.  This required me to be comfortable on a stage, able to communicate and engage the audience, and be prepared to do what was necessary in order to be ready to do perform my best onstage – regardless of the amount of time involved.  I also liked the creativity blended with a thorough understanding of different musical genres.  While much of the background work was autonomous, there was also camaraderie with other musicians as we prepared for a performance.

But above all, I wanted to make people feel something as a result of my performance.

While I no longer have ambitions of being a professional singer, I still have a deep desire to make my clients, students, and keynote attendees feel something by being challenged with new ideas that can improve their lives.

While the “stage” of my career is quite different, the elements that gave me joy as a singer are still present in my role as a leading advocate for the eradication of workplace burnout.

What’s your “common thread” in what gives YOU joy?

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Dr. Geri Puleo, SPHR, is the President and CEO of Change Management Solutions, Inc., an eLearning and Coaching company focused on eradicating workplace burnout through the B-DOC Model.  An entrepreneur for over 25 years, keynote speaker, author, blogger, business coach, university professor, and researcher, you can see her “in action” by watching her TEDx Talk on YouTube.  To contact Dr. Puleo, please go to

Understanding Your Past to Create a New Future

Signpost of Time

The new year is often the time when we assess our lives – and the role of our careers within our overall well-being.

  • Is it time to find a new job?
  • Is it time to change careers?
  • Or is it time to step up our game in our current position?

This is NOT an easy decision.

Far too often, workers begin by starting with they are NOW – and forget, overlook, or ignore what has happened BEFORE.  In other words, the focus is to take immediate action before deciding on a goal or developing a proactive plan to get there.

Without a clear goal and an action, it is highly likely that you will be reliving this decision next year.

The First Step to Create a New Future

Whether you have decided to find a new job, change careers, or step up your game at work, it is imperative to create a solid foundation.  That foundation is based on understanding and respecting your career history.

There are 3 areas that you need to identify and understand:

  • What You Did: Your duties, responsibilities, accomplishments, and honors
  • Why You Did It: Your reasons for accepting or leaving a job
  • How You Did It: Your unique competencies and outcomes

To help you get started in this inquiry, I’ve created this video (taken from eCourse, The 7 Pillars of a Successful Job Campaign):

I hope that this helps you find the RIGHT job this year so that you can create success on your own terms – good luck!

P.S.:  If you liked these ideas, click here to find out more about all the 7 pillars required to create an effective job search and manage your career.

Dr. Geri Puleo, SPHR, is the President and CEO of Change Management Solutions, Inc., an eLearning and Coaching company focused on eradicating workplace burnout through the B-DOC Model.  An entrepreneur for over 25 years, keynote speaker, author, blogger, business coach, university professor, and researcher, you can see her “in action” by watching her TEDx Talk on YouTube.  To contact Dr. Puleo, please go to



5 Tips to a New Job in the New Year

find a job with magnifying glass

Is finding a new job one of your new year’s resolutions?  If you want to find a new job, just search the online want ads.  But if you want to find the right job, you’ll need to drastically change your job search strategy.

The modern job search is a constantly changing flood of “high tech” plus “high touch” recruitment, requiring job seekers to expand the number of tools and networking platforms used to find new opportunities.

  • It’s not enough to be on LinkedIn, you need to use LinkedIn as part of your outreach and job search.
  • You’ll need to check out your Facebook page and other social media accounts to make sure that you are presenting an image that you want a potential employer to see. (Recruiters and hiring managers routinely look up job candidates on social media – even before the first screening interview.)

But you shouldn’t relegate your job search exclusively to social media or online job boards – that’s just the “high touch” part of the job campaign.  It is also important to incorporate a “high touch” approach in your job search.

Video conferencing is a great way to network or reach out to past contacts (even if they’re in a different time zone or country) to reconnect; Zoom offers a powerful free service and is easier to schedule than finding a convenient meeting place, date, and time for coffee.  Besides, no matter how an employer finds out about you, eventually you’ll still be in a face-to-face meeting before you are hired – either onsite or online.

Resumes have also changed over the years – and the advice on creating an effective resume in the 21st century job market elicits a wide range of do’s and don’ts.

  • Should you use color on your resume?
  • What about the best font – is sans serif “better” than serif?
  • How about layout? Is the hanging 1st line format so popular in the past going to be readable by the employer’s ATS (applicant tracking system)?
  • And what about using columns? Block lines?  Images or graphics?

The answer to all these question is:  IT DEPENDS.  On the ATS used by the employer, when a recruiter (a live person!) looks at resumes in the candidate sourcing process, and even on the preferences of the hiring manager.

I recently wrote a blog post on generally what not to do in formatting your resume, I’ve discovered that a lot of the do’s and don’ts depend on the employer’s ATS – not to mention the ability of the recruiter to effectively input the desired qualifications into the system!  For example, if you’re searching for a faculty position, using the term “university teaching” might be translated as NO experience in the field if the qualifications specified “higher education teaching!”

No wonder so many job candidates hate dealing with online job applications.

Learning how to “play” the ATS game is even more complicated since competing systems scan and interpret resumes differently.  Honestly, haven’t you been frustrated (even angry?!) when you’ve applied online for a job that seems to be custom-made made for you – only to receive no response or a “thanks, but no thanks” generic email?   A recent article in Forbes acknowledged this frustration in its alarming title, Why Your Resume Will Be Overlooked Even Though You’re Completely Qualified.

So, what should you do?  How do you set yourself up for a successful job search that differentiates you from the noise of other job candidates?

The Fundamental (Yet Overlooked) Job Search Basics

If you’re thinking about finding a new job,
what is the first thing that you do?

If you’re like most people, you take out your old resume and then add in the stuff that you’ve done since then – if you can remember all of it.  Step two is perusing the job boards and going through the frustrating process of applying online.  Step three is to wait…and wait…and wait for a response.

Not much fun…and neither efficient nor effective.

After 30 years working with job candidates from new graduates to senior executives, I’ve discovered that polishing up your resume and launching your job search should only be attempted after completing the following five steps:

  1. Understand your past. This is not just a laundry list of what you’ve done, but also a deep dive into how you did it, why you did it, and if it is something that you would want to do again.  This enables you to have a more comprehensive understanding of what you need in a job in order to be successful, satisfied, and avoid job burnout.
  2. Identify your competencies. Once you have an understanding of your past, search for trends in the skills that you used to get those results.  Perhaps you’re a great negotiator, a motivational leader, an astute analyst, or even a tireless problem-solver.  These are your competencies – or the knowledge, skills, and abilities (KSAs) that you do really, really well.  Together, they create your U.S.P. (unique selling proposition) that differentiates you from other job candidates.
  3. Know what you want. What are your “must have’s” and “can’t stands?”  How do you need to be managed in order to create excellent results?  In what type of work environment or culture do you feel the most comfortable and nurtured in developing your talents?  Especially if you’ve burned out in your current job, the last thing that you want to do is accept a position in a similar culture…but with a new employer!
  4. Decide if you want a new job – or a new career. While some of the fundamentals are the same, searching for a new career has additional challenges that are not present when you want to do the same work, but for a different employer.  Be sure to consider and incorporate your transferable skills throughout your search so that your career change is recognized as a well-considered next step on your career path.
  5. Customize your search to find the right job (not just any job). You are unique, there is no one exactly like you.  No one with your unique combination of KSA’s and competencies.  No one with the exact same professional and personal experiences.  Embrace your uniqueness!  You will be much better able to position yourself as the ideal candidate for a job that has the right combination of duties, responsibilities, opportunities for recognition, and culture for YOU.  Don’t be generic in your resume, cover letter, or interview – you can’t be all things to all potential employers, so don’t try!

By focusing FIRST on these five tips, you will be better able to craft a powerful resume, scour job boards for compatible jobs, confidently network with colleagues, and master the job interview.  Your goal for the new year should not be to find just a new job, but to find the right job.  Happy hunting!

Dr. Geri Puleo, SPHR, is the President and CEO of Change Management Solutions, Inc., an eLearning and Coaching company focused on eradicating workplace burnout through the B-DOC Model.  An entrepreneur for over 25 years, keynote speaker, author, blogger, business coach, university professor, and researcher, you can see her “in action” by watching her TEDx Talk on YouTube.  To contact Dr. Puleo, please go to

A Fresh Start After a Perceived “Failure”

Failure is staying down - Mary Pickford

Let’s face it:  we’ve all failed — and often quite spectacularly.

How we define “failure” is closely related to our unmet expectations:  when our projected outcomes do not align with our current reality…when we judge and compare ourselves to others…when our negative self-talk plays in a demoralizing perpetual loop.

We all fall down — but we don’t have to STAY down!  Let’s take this moment to refuse to dwell on our perceived “failures.”

Instead, let’s consciously focus on the lessons learned so that we can move out of negativity..and into positivity, passion, meaning, and joy.

The BAD news:  Focusing on failure makes us dangerously susceptible to burnout.
The GOOD news:  We have the undeniable power to make every moment in every day a brand new start!  All we need to do is CHOOSE to start fresh.

In 2019, let’s remember to consciously breathe with gratitude for the good in our lives — and with each breath, commit to rewriting our future by changing the paradigms that shape our lives.

Dr. Geri Puleo, SPHR, is the President and CEO of Change Management Solutions, Inc., an eLearning and Coaching company focused on eradicating workplace burnout through the B-DOC Model.  An entrepreneur for over 25 years, keynote speaker, author, blogger, business coach, university professor, and researcher, you can see her “in action” by watching her TEDx Talk on YouTube.  To contact Dr. Puleo, please go to

Why I STOPPED Trying to “Do It All” During the Holidays

Busy Elves

Does “having it all” necessarily mean “doing it all?”

In today’s fast-paced, chaotic world, we’ve developed a strong tendency to “go for the gold” in everything that we do — and we’re under constant pressure to do so:

It’s not enough to have a “happy” holiday…it has to be an AWESOME holiday!

It’s not enough to join our family and friends for a holiday meal, it has be the equivalent of a MICHELIN STAR feast!

While excellence is a worthwhile goal, I’ve come to believe that we can’t necessarily be “the best” at everything that we do — and that can be a good thing to help us really enjoy what we are doing.

So why do we apologize for our perceived lack of “perfection” — thereby forgetting to relish those things that we actually enjoy?

There are only 24 hours in a day – and we have to sleep at least some of those hours. But few of us get the recommended 7-8 hours of sleep per night, so our energy falters even though we insist on continuing to do “everything.”

The result is higher stress and an even more insurmountable “to do” list.

So why do we insist — either consciously OR subconsciously — that it is imperative that we “do it all?” Even more important: why do we apologize when we CAN’T “do it all?”

Priorities, Importance, and the Unimportant 

The answer is to prioritize what’s important to us — because when everything is important, then nothing is really important.

The simple truth (albeit a hard one for many of us to accept) is that we can’t “do it all.” But we can do the important things — the things that represent our priorities — well. “Doing it all” inherently draws us off course as we attempt to also do the unimportant things in our lives.

“Unimportant,” however, doesn’t mean “unnecessary.” Unimportant tasks are those activities that might need to be done – but don’t necessarily have to be done…by us.

Therein lies the challenge: when we admit that a task that we have traditionally accomplished can be done by someone else, it often causes our ego to question our “value.”

One of the most valuable lessons that I have learned is to accept the fact that I am a human being. This is NOT a human “doing” nor is it a “superhero” who doesn’t need sleep, rest, and relaxation. It also means accepting the fact that I can’t do everything “perfectly.”

But, like many of us, admitting that I can’t do it all was and (to a certain extent) continues to be a challenge. At no time is this more evident than during the holidays.

When we believe that everything is important, we lose our ability to prioritize things into what’s really  important, what’s not important, and what’s “nice” but neither necessary nor enjoyable.

Trying to do it all leads to feelings of being overwhelmed. Failing in our attempts to do it all leads to frustration and a diminished sense of self-worth. When we exhaust ourselves trying to meet impossible self-imposed deadlines, we burn out.

Yet we continue in our misguided efforts to go beyond our very human limitations.

How to STOP Doing It All (and Not Enjoying It) 

There is a two part cure for trying to “do it all”:

  1. First, we must prioritize what’s important to us…
  2. Then we must have the courage to focus our efforts on only those activities that are important to us

This means being able to say “no.” It also means being sufficiently confident of our own unique value so that we can feel comfortable delegating tasks to other people based on what’s important to them. 

If you love to bake, then by all means bake your family’s traditional holiday cookies!

Hate to decorate the tree? Then enlist your children, nephews, and nieces to “go wild” with their imaginations in the decorations.

Continuing to spend days preparing the Feast of the Seven Fishes for your Italian family? Then scale back and prepare only those dishes that your family really looks forward to. (NOTE: I did this in my family — surprisingly, the missing baccala was not even noticed!)

But the most important step to STOP trying to do it all is to stop apologizing when we can’t “do it all.”

It’s time to accept the fact that not only we personally but also everyone else CAN’T “do it all.” This insight drastically changes our perspectives of what is important, what is feasible, and what is just additional “stuff” that has little if any true importance.

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Dr. Geri Puleo, SPHR, is the President and CEO of Change Management Solutions, Inc., an eLearning and Coaching company focused on eradicating workplace burnout through the B-DOC Model.  To learn more, please visit her blog for individuals at or her corporate blog at  For more tips and ideas, please subscribe to her weekly “Success @ Work” eNewsletter at

Why Burnout Is NOT Inevitable

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Burnout has become rampant in the modern workplace. As the demands on our time, creativity, and problem-solving capabilities increase, this creates a stressor-rich environment that can contribute to burnout.

Even though our professional and personal lives have become increasingly hectic, time-consuming, and stressful, we DON’T have to become victims of this stress by succumbing to burnout.

IMPORTANT: Burning out does NOT mean that you have a maladaptive response to stress! In fact, I’ve found that it is the combination of three factors that create a fertile environment for the onset of burnout. This Burnout Triumvirate is comprised of personality traits, the organizational work environment, and physical symptoms.

Personality Traits. No two people are identical in their response to an external stressor. Therefore, understanding what causes YOU to experience negative stress is the first step in avoiding potential burnout-producing situations.

  • Are you a perfectionist with high standards that exceed what is necessary to get the job done?
  • Are you a people-pleaser who can’t seem to say “no” to the demands and requests of others?

Organizational Environment. Just as no two people are the same, no two work environments will create the same set of stressors that can lead to burnout.

  • How is your relationship with your immediate supervisor or boss? Is it autocratic, laissez-faire, or collegial?
  • What are the unspoken requirements for success in your workplace? Are long hours demanded? Is it necessary to curry political favors in order to get ahead?

Physical Symptoms. Finally, prolonged experiences of negative stress are manifested in a wide variety of physical malaise — both chronic and acute — that contribute to and maintain burnout.

  • Do you have a cold that you just can’t seem to get rid of? Gastrointestinal problems? A general feeling of being unwell?
  • Are you having difficulty getting a good night’s sleep — either failing to fall asleep or continuously waking up during the night?

By understanding your unique burnout triggers, you can not only overcome a current burnout but also take proactive steps to avoid burning out in the future.

Because my mission is to eradicate workplace burnout, I’ve expanded upon my research-based findings in an on-demand eCourse to help stressed out workers achieve greater productivity, work-life balance, and job satisfaction through recognizing, overcoming, and avoiding burnout.  P.S.: You can save $15 by using the coupon code BURNOUT15.

How to Avoid Burnout

Denial is one of the most difficult challenges associated with burnout. This is why it is so important to identify the types of situations or relationships that tend to be most stressful to you AND become crystal clear as to the personality traits that make you more susceptible to burnout.

While it’s always best to prevent burnout from occurring, you also need to have a clear action plan that will enable you to identify your personal warning signs that “routine” stress is moving toward burnout. In addition to sleep problems, you might notice that it is taking you longer to complete projects or that you’ve become cranky with your coworkers and family. You might even notice that you’ve lost your sense of humor!

It’s also important to bring subconscious self-talk to the forefront. In other words, what are you saying to yourself that can increase the likelihood of burnout AND keep you burned out? (HINT: One of the most common self-talk loops that sustains burnout focuses on the belief that “It should have been different.”)

It’s always best to take remedial action before you are in a full-blown burnout — but watch out for burnout’s false cures! These are the tactics used to assuage your stress (such as alcohol consumption or even spending more time at work), but that ultimately end up increasing your stress levels.

When you are on the road to burnout recovery, there is still one additional but powerful obstacle that can undermine your progress: residual burnout. Similar to a boomerang effect, residual burnout can be triggered by any situation that is reminiscent of what contributed to your burnout. While you might not succumb to a full-blown burnout, residual burnout can increase the levels of frustration, anger, and apathy that precipitate burnout.

The good news is that there ARE proven techniques to help you decrease stress and overcome burnout! These include common techniques (such as exercise, therapy, and a support network) to some not-so-common strategies that include embracing the changes that precipitated burnout and shifting your attention (and energy!) to something more positive.

I hope that this article provided you with some ideas to overcome burnout. I’d love to have you join us in my companion eCourse —How to Manage Stress and Avoid Burnout.

This 10-lesson eCourse dives into the personality traits, organizational environment, and physical problems that contribute to and maintain burnout. It is mobile-friendly and includes videos, articles, audiopodcasts, workbooks, quick quizzes, and a private community discussion forum to help you manage stress and avoid burnout. Don’t forget to use the special code BURNOUT15 to save $15 when you register!

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Dr. Geri Puleo, SPHR, is the President and CEO of Change Management Solutions, Inc., an eLearning and Coaching company focused on eradicating workplace burnout through the B-DOC Model. An entrepreneur for over 25 years, keynote speaker, author, blogger, business coach, university professor, and researcher, you can see her “in action” by watching her TEDx Talk on YouTube. To contact Dr. Puleo, please go to