Transform Fear Into Courage

You can do it better than you think - Jimmy Carter

As global citizens, we are communally responding to the coronavirus pandemic — but we are doing it in a variety of ways.

Some of us are frozen by fear of the unknown…fear of the radical changes in our daily habits…fear for ourselves, others, and our community.

But fear can only grow through the continuous repetition of negative self-talk  that emphasizes the “what ifs,” the “if thens,” and the belief that we are incapable of effectively responding to these challenges.

Yes, we would like that this pandemic miraculously disappears.  We pray that the number of fatalities subsides.  We mourn for the destruction of our routines and daily lives.  And we recognize that the world has been transformationally changed as a result of this virus — even though we can only speculate as to what will replace it.

It’s no wonder that many of us “tune out” the warnings, disregard the recommendations, and blindly attempt to conduct “business as usual.”

But this is not “business as usual.”

To overcome fear, we must shift our focus.  While I do not recommend putting a “happy face” on our very real emotions, I do recommend that we take an objective look at what is causing our stress and grief:

  • Are we faced with financial difficulties arising from salary reductions or decreased hours?
  • Are we fearful that our current health (and that of our loved ones) will be compromised some time in the future?
  • Do we feel ill informed and frustrated by the rapidly changing statistics, projections, and recommendations on a daily basis?

In all of these situations, we are trying to develop a new set of habits.  A new routine.  A new way of living our daily lives.

In other words, we are faced with profound changes on an individual, professional, and global basis.

Ignoring the current realities does not remove them.  

As we face what might be one of the biggest challenges in our lifetimes, we need to focus on what we can control — and in this (like any other situation), we can only control ourselves and our responses to this external stressor.

We must decide to continue to enjoy each moment of our lives.  We must recognize that nothing is permanent:  life is not permanent and neither is the coronavirus epidemic.

Courage is, therefore, a decision.  We can pull through this.  We not only have to, but we want to…we need to.  And in so doing, we can unleash the creative human potential that exists in each one of us.

  • We can become aware of our roles as citizens of a global community.
  • We can help others where we can.
  • We can search for ways in which we can be kind to one another.
  • And we can use this time for much needed self-reflection on what we want the legacy of our lives to be.

We can consciously address our fears and transform them into the courage we need to move forward to combat this pandemic.  We know that the coronavirus (like everything else in life) is impermanent.  This too shall pass — but how it will affect us will be determined by how we respond to it.

The coronavirus is not only a referendum on organizational leadership, but it is also a “pause” for us to individually question the nature of our current lives.  Life as we know it is bound to change as a result of this pandemic.  Old paradigms about the “nature of things” will be replaced.  We are uniquely positioned to make a profound difference in the world in which we live.

By objectively addressing our fears and harnessing our innate courage, we can boldly move forward toward the lives and legacies that we envision.

I hope and pray that you are safe, healthy, and courageous as we combat this global pandemic.

© 2020 Dr. Geri Puleo

 

 

 

 

 

Gratitude + Thankfulness = Thanksgiving!

Thanksgiving 2019 Meme

An environment in which gratitude and thankfulness are freely expressed creates the true spirit of Thanksgiving — but sometimes I think that this spirit has been lost in our mad rush to do it all, fix it all, and be everywhere at once.

For many people, Thanksgiving is a long weekend filled with obligations and familial duties that must be performed.  This creates a hyperactive, “rush rush” pace that misses the true intent behind the holiday.

  • Are you grateful for all that has been bestowed upon you in your life?  Even if you are facing challenging situations, there is always at least one thing that gives you peace and sparks joy in your being.  Find it.
  • Do you naturally express the thankfulness that you feel for all that is in your life?  Far too often, a simple “thank you” for an expression of kindness (large or small) is overlooked or simply assumed.  Express it.
  • Have you set aside even a few minutes for quiet reflection some time during the Thanksgiving weekend for all the blessings and advantages in your life?  Although it is said that it is better to give than receive, receiving graciously and giving freely are the cornerstones of a life of fulfillment and joy.  Live it.

This Thanksgiving, I urge you to think about more than just the turkey with all the fixings.  To think about more than the football games.  And to think more about the people in your life rather than the breakneck travel to see them.  Instead, really consider how your family and friends enhance the quality to your life. 

And don’t forget to spread the kindness of the season to your coworkers, bosses, and employees.  Thanksgiving in the workplace is a time to express your gratitude for how those with whom you work enable you to do your job well and succeed.  After all, the people with whom we work are just that:  people who want to feel grateful and appreciated.  Recognize them.  

By consistently combining gratitude with thankfulness, Thanksgiving expands beyond a single day in November and instead becomes a way of living and being in the world.

© 2019 G. A. Puleo

Dr. Geri Puleo, SPHR, is the President and CEO of Change Management Solutions, Inc., an eLearning and Coaching company focused on eradicating workplace burnout through the B-DOC Model.  An entrepreneur for over 25 years, keynote speaker, author, blogger, business coach, university professor, and researcher, you can see her “in action” by watching her TEDx Talk on YouTube.  To contact Dr. Puleo, please go to www.gapuleo.com

Recovering From Burnout? Be Patient!

If you have recently recognized that you are (unfortunately!) burned out AND you have begun to take proactive steps to recover (fortunately!), I have some advice:

Be patient!  

You didn’t burn out overnight — it’s usually at least 6 months to 2 years prior to a full-blown burnout — so your recovery needs to be taken in incremental small steps in order to FULLY recover from burnout.

In this 3-minute video, I’ll share the 3 “baby steps” to take along your recovery.  You CAN overcome burnout and move forward toward a happier, less stressful life — but it’s important to begin those baby steps now!

© 2019 G. A. Puleo

Dr. Geri Puleo, SPHR, is the President and CEO of Change Management Solutions, Inc., an eLearning and Coaching company focused on eradicating workplace burnout through the B-DOC Model.  An entrepreneur for over 25 years, keynote speaker, author, blogger, business coach, university professor, and researcher, you can see her “in action” by watching her TEDx Talk on YouTube.  To contact Dr. Puleo, please go to www.gapuleo.com

Life Is Like Riding a Bicycle

Life is like a bicycle - Albert Einstein

Why do we tend to focus so much on arriving at the goal…but forget about the journey?  Why is it so easy to quit moving forward after we’ve reached our destination?

In other words, why do we STOP moving after a perceived “end point?”

Nothing in life is static.  We are constantly moving.  The goal, of course, is to direct our movements toward something that is worthwhile, noble, and satisfying.  If we stand still, we are more likely to retreat into our past glories (or defeats) and forego moving toward the future.

But many movements are imperceptible.  Even when we are sleeping or at rest, there is constant motion within our bodies:  our hearts, lungs, and digestive tracts continue to work autonomously even when we aren’t.

Despite the stillness we experience in meditation, certain parts of the brain continue to be highly activated. A recent study showed that our electrical brain waves during meditation are not static; instead the waves indicate a perfect balance of mental activity that is both wakeful and relaxed.

Life is all about this delicate balance arising from movement. Some of our movements will be visible to others through actions and behaviors. Other movements will be private and intangible in the form of thoughts and desires. But both forms of movement are necessary to build wisdom and growth during the journey that is our life.

Dr. Geri Puleo, SPHR, is the President and CEO of Change Management Solutions, Inc., an eLearning and Coaching company focused on eradicating workplace burnout through the B-DOC Model.  An entrepreneur for over 25 years, keynote speaker, author, blogger, business coach, university professor, and researcher, you can see her “in action” by watching her TEDx Talk on YouTube.  To contact Dr. Puleo, please go to www.gapuleo.com

A Fresh Start After a Perceived “Failure”

Failure is staying down - Mary Pickford

Let’s face it:  we’ve all failed — and often quite spectacularly.

How we define “failure” is closely related to our unmet expectations:  when our projected outcomes do not align with our current reality…when we judge and compare ourselves to others…when our negative self-talk plays in a demoralizing perpetual loop.

We all fall down — but we don’t have to STAY down!  Let’s take this moment to refuse to dwell on our perceived “failures.”

Instead, let’s consciously focus on the lessons learned so that we can move out of negativity..and into positivity, passion, meaning, and joy.

The BAD news:  Focusing on failure makes us dangerously susceptible to burnout.
The GOOD news:  We have the undeniable power to make every moment in every day a brand new start!  All we need to do is CHOOSE to start fresh.

In 2019, let’s remember to consciously breathe with gratitude for the good in our lives — and with each breath, commit to rewriting our future by changing the paradigms that shape our lives.

Dr. Geri Puleo, SPHR, is the President and CEO of Change Management Solutions, Inc., an eLearning and Coaching company focused on eradicating workplace burnout through the B-DOC Model.  An entrepreneur for over 25 years, keynote speaker, author, blogger, business coach, university professor, and researcher, you can see her “in action” by watching her TEDx Talk on YouTube.  To contact Dr. Puleo, please go to www.gapuleo.com

Happy Holidays from Dr. Geri Puleo!

2018 Holiday Card

Dr. Geri Puleo, SPHR, is the President and CEO of Change Management Solutions, Inc., an eLearning and Coaching company focused on eradicating workplace burnout through the B-DOC Model.  An entrepreneur for over 25 years, keynote speaker, author, blogger, business coach, university professor, and researcher, you can see her “in action” by watching her TEDx Talk on YouTube.  To contact Dr. Puleo, please go to www.gapuleo.com

Holiday Stress: How NOT to Turn into a Burned Out Grinch!

Did you ever notice that we look forward to the joy of the holidays…but then are too exhausted and stressed out to really enjoy the festivities?  WHY does this (always) seem to happen?

In this video from my free eCourse, Destressing the Holidays:  How to Move From Bah Hum Bug to HoHoHoI’ll share the Top 5 holiday stressors:  by understanding what causes your holiday stress, you’re better able to avoid them.

For more information on overcoming holiday stress, click here in my on-demand holiday eCourse.  HoHoHo!

Dr. Geri Puleo, SPHR, is the President and CEO of Change Management Solutions, Inc., an eLearning and Coaching company focused on eradicating workplace burnout through the B-DOC Model.  An entrepreneur for over 25 years, keynote speaker, author, blogger, business coach, university professor, and researcher, you can see her “in action” by watching her TEDx Talk on YouTube.  To contact Dr. Puleo, please go to www.gapuleo.com