Are Your “Should’s” and Expectations Leading to Burnout?

Groupthink blindly walking off the edge Disgruntled and frustrated feelings arising from unmet expectations can lead to burnout. Life is funny.  We all have great dreams about what we want to do and who we want to be.  Many of us even create detailed plans to get us there.  Far too often we set extremely … Continue reading Are Your “Should’s” and Expectations Leading to Burnout?

How I Use Priorities to Avoid Burnout (and you can, too!) 

Priorities itemized on a grid Avoiding burnout requires living life by YOUR priorities by maintaining supportive boundaries.  However, figuring out what YOUR specific boundaries are…well, that’s the hard part.  Let’s start off with really understanding what constitutes a “boundary”:  It’s a clear indication of where one thing ends and another begins It’s a dividing line … Continue reading How I Use Priorities to Avoid Burnout (and you can, too!) 

One Word vs. a List of Resolutions

Replace new year's resolutions with a mantra Do you still create a list of new year’s resolutions…or have you given up on the practice?  According to a 2015 University of Scranton study, 80% of new year's resolutions fail.  And if you’re wondering how quickly people give up on those resolutions, a 2019 USA Today report found … Continue reading One Word vs. a List of Resolutions

Life Is Like Riding a Bicycle

Why do we tend to focus so much on arriving at the goal...but forget about the journey?  Why is it so easy to quit moving forward after we've reached our destination? In other words, why do we STOP moving after a perceived "end point?" Nothing in life is static.  We are constantly moving.  The goal, … Continue reading Life Is Like Riding a Bicycle

So, What Do You REALLY Want to Do?

Have you ever asked a child what he or she wants to be when they grow up?  Usually they have a long, extensive list of all the professional possibilities just waiting for them when they grow up. But ask an adult what he or she really wants to do professionally?  Well, that’s usually a completely … Continue reading So, What Do You REALLY Want to Do?

A Fresh Start After a Perceived “Failure”

Let's face it:  we've all failed -- and often quite spectacularly. How we define "failure" is closely related to our unmet expectations:  when our projected outcomes do not align with our current reality...when we judge and compare ourselves to others...when our negative self-talk plays in a demoralizing perpetual loop. We all fall down -- but … Continue reading A Fresh Start After a Perceived “Failure”

Why Burnout Is NOT Inevitable

Burnout has become rampant in the modern workplace. As the demands on our time, creativity, and problem-solving capabilities increase, this creates a stressor-rich environment that can contribute to burnout. Even though our professional and personal lives have become increasingly hectic, time-consuming, and stressful, we DON'T have to become victims of this stress by succumbing to … Continue reading Why Burnout Is NOT Inevitable

Nothing can stop you from letting go…and starting over

Letting go is hard.  We hold on to so many things that no longer serve us.  We stay in jobs that demoralize us.  We stay in relationships in which we no longer have anything in common.  We stay stuck on a strategy that isn't producing the results that we desire. Yet we continue to hang … Continue reading Nothing can stop you from letting go…and starting over

Every new beginning comes from some other beginning’s end

Beginnings and endings:  are they really that different?  Or are they different ways of viewing the same event? To begin anew means giving up what we did in the past in order to begin unfettered in creating a new future.  A fresh beginning that allows us to to move freely forward requires accepting that the … Continue reading Every new beginning comes from some other beginning’s end

Knowing Is Not Enough

On some level, we all know what we need to do in order to succeed.  We've taken the courses, attended the lectures, listened to the podcasts...but somehow we tend to stay "stuck." Creating the necessary changes in our lives requires the decision to make those changes.  That means pushing down our fears and deciding that we will … Continue reading Knowing Is Not Enough