One of the biggest regrets is feeling that we “woulda, coulda, shoulda”:
- I woulda taken that promotion…if only I hadn’t been afraid.
- I coulda succeeded at my dream job…if only I had managed my time better.
- I shoulda changed careers…if only I had known what I wanted.
The regret (and guilt) associated with thoughts of “woulda, coulda, shoulda” also reflect paralysis by analysis:
By not knowing what to do, we do nothing.
Perhaps our inaction is the result of a fear of failure.
Perhaps it is the trepidation surrounding an unforeseeable future.
Perhaps it is a fear of success.
But NOT taking action is itself an ACTION — and it is also a way to develop and sustain the attitude of a victim.
NONE of us have all the answers. NONE of us can foretell the future. NONE of us will succeed 100% of the time.
But ALL of us have the power to choose our reactions and subsequent actions to that which is occurring in our lives. In other words, we must decide what to do based on the best information that we have NOW.
There is no harm in modifying our paths — studies have shown that airplanes are off course to their destination a whopping 99% of the time. So, how do they land where they’re supposed to? They are unafraid to modify or alter their course so that they will arrive at their target.
The same is true in life: we can always modify, adapt, or totally change our path.
So what fears are holding you back from creating success on your own terms?
Dr. Geri Puleo, SPHR, is the President and CEO of Change Management Solutions, Inc., an eLearning and Coaching company focused on eradicating workplace burnout through the B-DOC Model. An entrepreneur for over 25 years, keynote speaker, author, blogger, business coach, university professor, and researcher, you can see her “in action” by watching her TEDx Talk on YouTube. To contact Dr. Puleo, please go to www.gapuleo.com.